When does being compassionate turn into being walked all over and abused? When is it the 'sisterly' thing to do and when is it the right thing to do for the whole group?
The President of the United States or the Prime Minister of Great Britain does not run for those positions to befriend everyone or to make the whole world happy. They do what will benefit the entire people, even if that means that some people are not getting exactly what they want.
Sometimes people in leadership positions have to make very difficult decisions. Hours of planning, discussing, and sometimes arguing go into making these decisions so that these leaders can ensure that, in their eyes, the BEST decision is being made. The opinions of these leaders may not be the same opinions as you, but you voted for them to represent the whole group and to make these difficult decisions based on their opinions and experience.
How many people in the world don't vote in presidential elections but complain about every single thing the president does? How many people have the opportunity to hold a leadership position but do not embrace this opportunity and then complain about the decisions of the people who DID step up to lead the group?
The decisions of leaders are not always the easiest to make, but they make them in hopes to better the group they are serving.
Of course in a sisterhood it is important to be compassionate and understanding, but when does it go too far? When does this compassion interfere with the running and sustainability of the group?
Just something to think about.
"I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure: which is: Try to please everybody." -Herbert B Swope, world famous Journalist during WW1
"Leaders shouldn't attach moral significance to their ideas: Do that, and you can't compromise." -Peter F Drucker, famous writer, professor and management consultant
"The art of leadership is saying no, not yes. It is very easy to say yes." - Tony Blair, past Prime Minister of Great Britain
Monday, August 24, 2009
Sunday, July 19, 2009
Abortion
Recently, a friend of mine boldly stated that if she were to become pregnant any time soon, that it would be no contest that she would get and abortion. I just smiled and nodded when she said this because I, personally, am against abortion 100% but I also believe that each person should make their own decisions. There are always circumstances in which abortion may be the best option but, to me, only in rare or dangerous situations should abortion be a top option.
Abortion should not be used as another form of birth control! If you claim that you are mature enough to have sex, then be mature enough the accept the responsibilities that often come along because of it. "I'm just too young" is not a good reason to have an abortion. There are so many other options!
First of all, there is adoption. I think that getting pregnant in itself is a miracle! It is such a beautiful thing that many people take for granted. There are so many people in the world that would do anything just to have this miracle happen to them but it never happens. They would be great parents and could support a family, but their bodies just don't make it happen. How could someone act like their getting pregnant is so horrible and want an abortion when there are people out there who can't get pregnant at all??
Also, I've heard or seen on pregnancy shows (like the show "16 and Pregnant" on MTV) that some girls think, "Oh, it would be so hard giving up MY baby for adoption! I don't think I'm strong enough!" Oh, but you're strong enough to kill it??
Sadly, adoption is often very expensive and hard to actually receive a child. That leaves many families childless and depressed.
Unfortunately, too many teenagers are getting pregnant and just whisking away to abortion clinics to "solve their problem" but I can't help but wonder if they'll regret it later on in their life when they have trouble getting pregnant because of the abortion.
Obviously my opinions differ from many people but I had to share it with all of you in blogger world.
Abortion should not be used as another form of birth control! If you claim that you are mature enough to have sex, then be mature enough the accept the responsibilities that often come along because of it. "I'm just too young" is not a good reason to have an abortion. There are so many other options!
First of all, there is adoption. I think that getting pregnant in itself is a miracle! It is such a beautiful thing that many people take for granted. There are so many people in the world that would do anything just to have this miracle happen to them but it never happens. They would be great parents and could support a family, but their bodies just don't make it happen. How could someone act like their getting pregnant is so horrible and want an abortion when there are people out there who can't get pregnant at all??
Also, I've heard or seen on pregnancy shows (like the show "16 and Pregnant" on MTV) that some girls think, "Oh, it would be so hard giving up MY baby for adoption! I don't think I'm strong enough!" Oh, but you're strong enough to kill it??
Sadly, adoption is often very expensive and hard to actually receive a child. That leaves many families childless and depressed.
Unfortunately, too many teenagers are getting pregnant and just whisking away to abortion clinics to "solve their problem" but I can't help but wonder if they'll regret it later on in their life when they have trouble getting pregnant because of the abortion.
Obviously my opinions differ from many people but I had to share it with all of you in blogger world.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MICHAEL!
Hello blogger world!
First and foremost: HAPPY BIRTHDAY MICHAEL! I know it wasn't the BEST birthday you've ever had (REALLY, who gives their kids chores and schedules a doctor's appt on their birthday!) but I'm glad it could be better because of me! =)
So, I'm leaving for New Jersey in less than 36 hrs! woo! I am so excited to see all of my cousins and aunts, uncles and grandparents! I'm also nervous/excited for Michael to meet my whole family =) I know they'll like him. EVERYONE likes him! Even girls I hate that make him cocky because they all fawn all over him! Hopefully I'll get a good tan!
The other day, we were talking about what we would do if we won a million dollars (or 60 million dollars cause that's what the lottery is like now) and this is what I've decided I would spend it on:
1. Pay off my whole family's debt. Except for any credit card in Gloria's name because I hate her.
2. Set up some trust funds for my future kids (I'll plan for 3 and see how that works). Hopefully I won't find out how many kids I'm having too soon.
3. Buy a new car!!!!!!! Probably and audi or a mercedes. I LOVE MERCEDES.
4. Buy a FUN car! (First, I'd try to buy my dad's '69 yellow Firebird convertible) If that doesn't work, then I'll go hunting for another firebird to get. Then I'd buy the new 2010 CAMARO. like the one in Transformers *drool*
5. Donate a lot to a charity of my choice
6. Make my whole wardrobe burberry and buy every kate spade purse
7. Buy a beach house, regular house, and mountain house near or at a ski resort!
8. Summer long or maybe longer trip around the world. I wanna fill my passport!!! and a few suitcases with souveirs
well, I think that's enough to spend it on...
I probably won't write again until after my trip when I post some awesome fun pictures!
Peace out!
First and foremost: HAPPY BIRTHDAY MICHAEL! I know it wasn't the BEST birthday you've ever had (REALLY, who gives their kids chores and schedules a doctor's appt on their birthday!) but I'm glad it could be better because of me! =)
So, I'm leaving for New Jersey in less than 36 hrs! woo! I am so excited to see all of my cousins and aunts, uncles and grandparents! I'm also nervous/excited for Michael to meet my whole family =) I know they'll like him. EVERYONE likes him! Even girls I hate that make him cocky because they all fawn all over him! Hopefully I'll get a good tan!
The other day, we were talking about what we would do if we won a million dollars (or 60 million dollars cause that's what the lottery is like now) and this is what I've decided I would spend it on:
1. Pay off my whole family's debt. Except for any credit card in Gloria's name because I hate her.
2. Set up some trust funds for my future kids (I'll plan for 3 and see how that works). Hopefully I won't find out how many kids I'm having too soon.
3. Buy a new car!!!!!!! Probably and audi or a mercedes. I LOVE MERCEDES.
4. Buy a FUN car! (First, I'd try to buy my dad's '69 yellow Firebird convertible) If that doesn't work, then I'll go hunting for another firebird to get. Then I'd buy the new 2010 CAMARO. like the one in Transformers *drool*
5. Donate a lot to a charity of my choice
6. Make my whole wardrobe burberry and buy every kate spade purse
7. Buy a beach house, regular house, and mountain house near or at a ski resort!
8. Summer long or maybe longer trip around the world. I wanna fill my passport!!! and a few suitcases with souveirs
well, I think that's enough to spend it on...
I probably won't write again until after my trip when I post some awesome fun pictures!
Peace out!
Saturday, June 27, 2009
SO HAPPY!
I'm so happy Michael came down this weekend! The past 2 months, I've been living four hours away from him and have barely seen him. When I have seen him, it's only for a couple hours at a time and usually only for a couple days. But now, he came to visit ME and we can lay in bed and cuddle as much as we want without interruption. =)
It's hard with a long distance relationship to keep that strong bond and connection that you have with someone when you're together. We managed ok but it's been hard. Our jealous sides have definitely come out. But now that we're here together, everything just fits right back into place and it's like we've spent no time apart at all! For the rest of the summer, I will not have to spend as much time away from him as I have at the beginning of the summer and I'm very glad about that. I'm excited for next year when we're living within a 2 minutes walk of each other.
I am so happy right now!!!!!!!! I LOVE YOU MICHAEL. Happy early birthday too.
Sorry to everyone that I am so sickeningly and cutsy-ing-ly in love. I hope I don't annoy anyone lol
It's hard with a long distance relationship to keep that strong bond and connection that you have with someone when you're together. We managed ok but it's been hard. Our jealous sides have definitely come out. But now that we're here together, everything just fits right back into place and it's like we've spent no time apart at all! For the rest of the summer, I will not have to spend as much time away from him as I have at the beginning of the summer and I'm very glad about that. I'm excited for next year when we're living within a 2 minutes walk of each other.
I am so happy right now!!!!!!!! I LOVE YOU MICHAEL. Happy early birthday too.
Sorry to everyone that I am so sickeningly and cutsy-ing-ly in love. I hope I don't annoy anyone lol
Thursday, June 25, 2009
IIIINTERESTING DAY
So much has happened today both in my personal life and in the world.
Tutoring went really well today. We kinda bonded. Is it sad that I watch a lot of the same TV shows as an 8 year old? hm..
I have finally cleaned my room! Well, I'm almost done. Just a little more clutter to organize and some dusting left to do. Then, I only have the bathroom to clean and the dishes to do! OH JOY!
Today has been a very sad day for the entire world. Farrah Fawcett was in international beauty and icon. Everyone recognizes her, especially her hair. I always loved her hair! There was an episode of Shear Genius where Farrah was a guest judge. It was my favorite episode! Creating that hairstyle is NOT easy! Already saddened by that, it was hard to believe that the day could get worse. Then, it did.
Michael Jackson is a legend. Probably not sense the death of John Lennon or Elvis has there been such devastation in the music world. Often, we portray celebrities, especially those as legendary as Michael Jackson, as invincible so it comes as much more of a shock to us when something like this happens.
Probably the most shocking thing to happen, was that some people were as disrespectful as to mention the scandal behind his life and death. Can't we even give him 24 hours to let him find peace! What about his family? They want to remember the good things about him especially in the days to come. I'm sure every single person out there would be even more devastated if people were talking about your loved one's dirty laundry on the day of their death.
Lastly, I want to mention how obsessed I am with twitter!!! It's so entertaining. I follow more celebrities than friends now, like Perez Hilton and John Mayer. It's very entertaining, especially when Perez gets into drama with other stars! Today's twitter fight was between Perez Hilton and Pete Wentz. LOL
Well, that's all for today. I better get back to my cleaning! AH is it already 10:30????? I better get to work!
Tutoring went really well today. We kinda bonded. Is it sad that I watch a lot of the same TV shows as an 8 year old? hm..
I have finally cleaned my room! Well, I'm almost done. Just a little more clutter to organize and some dusting left to do. Then, I only have the bathroom to clean and the dishes to do! OH JOY!
Today has been a very sad day for the entire world. Farrah Fawcett was in international beauty and icon. Everyone recognizes her, especially her hair. I always loved her hair! There was an episode of Shear Genius where Farrah was a guest judge. It was my favorite episode! Creating that hairstyle is NOT easy! Already saddened by that, it was hard to believe that the day could get worse. Then, it did.
Michael Jackson is a legend. Probably not sense the death of John Lennon or Elvis has there been such devastation in the music world. Often, we portray celebrities, especially those as legendary as Michael Jackson, as invincible so it comes as much more of a shock to us when something like this happens.
Probably the most shocking thing to happen, was that some people were as disrespectful as to mention the scandal behind his life and death. Can't we even give him 24 hours to let him find peace! What about his family? They want to remember the good things about him especially in the days to come. I'm sure every single person out there would be even more devastated if people were talking about your loved one's dirty laundry on the day of their death.
Lastly, I want to mention how obsessed I am with twitter!!! It's so entertaining. I follow more celebrities than friends now, like Perez Hilton and John Mayer. It's very entertaining, especially when Perez gets into drama with other stars! Today's twitter fight was between Perez Hilton and Pete Wentz. LOL
Well, that's all for today. I better get back to my cleaning! AH is it already 10:30????? I better get to work!
Tutoring
I have a feeling it's going to be a LONG summer tutoring Hannah. It's only been 3 days and so far one of those days has been cancelled and one day has been pushed back an hour.... I'm glad that I'm a punctual person!
Today Michael and I have been dating for 9 months. We decided not to make a big deal out of months anymore...just years/half years. I've never been in this long of a relationship. It's exciting! It's also his mom's b-day. Happy Birthday Mrs. Schaaf!
Today Michael and I have been dating for 9 months. We decided not to make a big deal out of months anymore...just years/half years. I've never been in this long of a relationship. It's exciting! It's also his mom's b-day. Happy Birthday Mrs. Schaaf!
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Post-Feminism
I decided, or rather discovered, today that I am a post-feminist. The definition of Post-Feminism that I most fit with is the belief that feminism is no longer relevant in today's society. I guess I also relate with some contemporary feminists that believe that separating the sexes rather than uniting them is sexism. Many traditional feminists do just that: separate the sexes.
I think that pointing out the differences between men and women rather than the similarities only separates the two genders even more, thus, leading to inequality. So many people are willing to claim that they are feminists but then revert back to pre-feminist ways like depending on a man to live and to be happy.
For example, there are all these shows on TV now that portray "independent" women who are successful and comfortable with their sexuality and have exciting sex lives. On the other hand, their emotions and feelings are constantly at the mercy of men. Go ahead, be independent and fight for the equality! Do that, but don't be a hypocrite and revert back to the traditional gender roles. You can't have both! You can;t pick and choose when you want to be equal and when you expect a man to be in the lead.
I don't get why women fight for equality in the workplace but they also expect a man to open a door for her or pay for her meal on a date. Traditionally, a man would pay for a date because he made more money or he was courting the woman. Don't expect equality AND to be treated differently (like giving up his seat on the bus for you or paying for your meal). You just can't have both!
I think that pointing out the differences between men and women rather than the similarities only separates the two genders even more, thus, leading to inequality. So many people are willing to claim that they are feminists but then revert back to pre-feminist ways like depending on a man to live and to be happy.
For example, there are all these shows on TV now that portray "independent" women who are successful and comfortable with their sexuality and have exciting sex lives. On the other hand, their emotions and feelings are constantly at the mercy of men. Go ahead, be independent and fight for the equality! Do that, but don't be a hypocrite and revert back to the traditional gender roles. You can't have both! You can;t pick and choose when you want to be equal and when you expect a man to be in the lead.
I don't get why women fight for equality in the workplace but they also expect a man to open a door for her or pay for her meal on a date. Traditionally, a man would pay for a date because he made more money or he was courting the woman. Don't expect equality AND to be treated differently (like giving up his seat on the bus for you or paying for your meal). You just can't have both!
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